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The Umbrella Academy is a great (comic-book) genre offering from Netflix since it cancelled all of its Marvel shows (darn that Disney!).

3 SENTENCE REVIEW

The Umbrella Academy is a fun and colorful mix (yeah, the representation adds interesting layers) of a story about a dysfunctional team of 7 non-biological siblings raised by an emotionally detached and shadowy father.  It has a little bit of everything – drama, action, humor, sci-fi, mystery, romance, and the 2nd season takes it even further with historical fiction that has surprisingly timely social commentary.  But what sets this show apart from the rest of the comic-book genre shows is the way it goes deep into the emotional complexities of family, using flashes to different points in time (like Lostdang i miss that show) to explore its characters, as each one wrestles with their own demons to come together.  8 out of 10.

 

BEN AS METAPHOR FOR AN ASIAN AMERICAN EXPERIENCE

Before I start here, I have to give a number of disclaimers.  One, especially with season 2, there’s a lot that can be said about the dynamics for the POC in this show (Alison as a black woman thrust into the civil rights era and how she so tragically states to Ray how not enough has changed decades later to present day, Diego as a brown man that is often cast aside and not taken seriously) but I will leave that to people more qualified to speak on it.  Two, although I have the lived experience of an Asian American I am by no means an expert on the Asian American experience and I realize the problematic nature of treating that experience as a monolithic experience…hence I say “an” Asian American experience not “the” Asian American experience.

Okay, with that said, you ready to jump in?  In a number of ways I see the character of Ben, number 6 in the Hargreeves family (played by Korean American actor Justin H. Min), as a metaphor for a lot that resonates with an Asian American experience.

INVISIBILITY:  As someone who is deceased, Ben is literally invisible to everyone else.  Even the one person who can see him, his white step-brother Klaus, often ignores or disregards Ben.  In the series Ben is often resigned to his place and that he will not be listened to.  Like Ben, this is a common experience for the Asian American who is often not seen in larger society.  They are a minority in America and even amongst conversations regarding POC they are erased or moved to the background.  They are simultaneously silenced and criticized for being silent.  Rarely are Asian Americans portrayed as main characters in American stories or places of authority.  Rarely are Asians Americans part of whatever cultural discussion is taking place at the table.  Asian Americans often feel invisible.

PROXY:  The only way that Ben can “touch” or interact with the world is by proxy through his brother Klaus.  Ben doesn’t even have a choice in who represents him but it must be through a white man (and a pretty self-centered one at that), in fact (spoiler alert) he is only seen as attractive in the body of a white man.  Ben only lived till his teens so he is stuck in this pre-pubescent stage of development.  Like Ben, in order to be noticed in America, many Asian Americans are made to feel that the only way they can move forward in this world is to do things the white way.  And as White Americans are the dominant and majority (for now) culture that holds power there’s not as much of the kind of privilege for minorities to change what is set as the norm.  Often Asian Americans feel cut short before being able to develop to their full potential to be seen and celebrated on their own terms.

LIMINALITY:  Ben is not fully in the realm of the dead nor in in the realm of the living.  He is not fully human nor fully (literally a) monster.  He exists in a liminal space (to borrow from the Asian American theologian Sang Hyun Lee).  There is melancholy there but there is also a unique power there.  As season 2 progresses (spoiler alert) he is the only one, out of all the siblings, that is able to step in where no one else can to bring redemption – to see the sibling that feels alienated because he knows what its like to occupy that space and bring assurance that we are not all monster.  Like Ben, Asian Americans are not fully accepted as Asian in Asia nor are they fully accepted as American in America.  Even if they are born here and have lived here for generations they are persistently asked “Where are you from?”  Asian Americans are viewed as perpetual foreigners, aliens, and even as monsters of yellow peril that are all somehow responsible for a virus like Covid-19, as an entire race.  But like Ben, Asian Americans don’t always have to be the victim of circumstance.  They can choose to own their role in the liminal space for creative solutions outside the box, prophetic witness, and as a bridge between oppressed and oppressor (both of which they may find in themselves).

Maybe Asian Americans are here for such a time as this, when it feels the world is ending that there is hope in the now and not yet.

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by dave (aka treevalley)

true confession: i’m a sucker for comic book shows and films so there’s a lot of disbelief/criticism i suspend to enjoy super heroes and villains do their thing.  of course the action of such stories is a draw for me but, as a student of literature and life, what is more interesting to me is what our hero stories say about our culture.  hero stories represent our fears, dreams, and hopes of what our best selves could accomplish in the face of struggles and injustice.

 

the netflix-marvel team up of shows (daredevil, jessica jones, luke cage, and now the iron fist) has raised the bar considerably for bringing these comic book characters to life in the context of our current culture…a gritty, morally gray, and angry place.  granted, iron fist, is unfortunately, the weakest of these offerings (danny rand aka the iron fist, as our protagonist, seems a little too conflicted in the latter half of the show for the audience to really follow) but it still grapples with important questions, namely, how do we deal with our desires in the pursuit of a goal.

 

right away i noticed the show’s nods to buddhist practice and principles in our main character.  the iron fist itself was created as a character in response to the fascination with martial arts in america in the 70’s.   asian cultural appropriation and misrepresentation aside, if our old way of doing things isn’t doing it for us we are often drawn to the mystery of the unfamiliar.   for danny, his central conflict is his desire for family and his goal to be strong enough to take on any challenge.  in a key part of the story, his old master’s words, tell him that he must put to death his desire for familial connection (lost through a tragic event) in order to become a true “iron fist”, a powerful defender (of the way of kun lun, a mystical buddhist like sanctuary).  buddhism teaches that we must empty ourselves of our desire if we are to reach nirvana, or the true state of peace.

 

then comes along the character of colleen wing (played brilliantly by jessica henwick, who i believe was the most convincing and compelling actor of the story) who is running a beat-up little dojo.  she has been trained in the bushi-do (literally, the “way of the warrior”) and reluctantly befriends danny who is left friendless in new york.  for colleen the central conflict is her desire for intimacy and her goal to seek justice for the outcasts of society like her.  the bushi-do teaches that she must sacrifice her own relational tenderness for the cause of justice.

 

there is also considerable screen time given to the meachum family.  the family friends that danny grew up with before his absence from society.  the meachums have pursued the expansion of their business enterprise at any cost, even if people are hurt or exploited in the process. in joy meachum, the daughter of the empire and the one that was once the closest friend of danny, we find the conflict of her desire for compassion and her goal to keep up the family business.  the business ethic of her father taught her that she must not get caught up in the needs of others in order to pursue one’s own family legacy.

 

in all three characters we find the conflict of their personal desire with the pursuit of a larger goal.  Isn’t this the struggle we so often find within ourselves?  the worldviews represented by each character teach them that the former must be sacrificed for the latter (a particularly asian way of approaching the world in that this a value found in most eastern collectivist cultures).  certainly there is merit to this way of thinking as putting our individual needs above the needs of others all the time can be disastrous.  But must personal desire and larger goals be mutually exclusive?

 

surely we ought not give way to our every desire.  but the answer does not seem to be found in suppressing our every desire either (that usually backfires).   when i am in places of such conflict, i have found it helpful to ask God what is the real desire behind my felt desire and giving that need to Him.  the Creator of the Universe is more than able to meet me in that place.  so the iron fist grasps and is left with nothing but the hand that opens itself can receive what is truly good.

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by dave k.

i have a theory, garnered a little from my personal experience, that there are four stages toward a serious relationship or at least how you know you’re moving forward in a relationship.  alright then, here it goes…

STAGE 1: THE BEST FACE

this is often the first stage in a relationship where you put on your best face.  you know, looking and sounding as interesting as possible and getting all dressed up.  this, of course, is fun but you can only keep this act up for so long.  if you’re getting more comfortable with each other over time you will probably move into the next stage.

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never under-estimate the power of body language…hah!

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alright he’s got game but remember it’s just game

STAGE 2: THE REAL FACE

this is when you show your real face, even the parts about yourself that you know aren’t pretty (according to steve harvey this will come out after 90 days of being together whether you like it or not).  if even after seeing each other’s issues, you’re still willing to stay and work them out your relationship may be ready for the next stage.

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somehow i cannot hide who I am though i’ve tried

oh dream maker, you heart breaker

oh dream maker, you heart breaker

STAGE 3: THE FACE YOU DIDN’T KNOW WAS A PROBLEM

this stage is tough because you partner inevitably will have to bring up issues that you didn’t know were issues.  these might be habits that have long been a part of your life that you’ve been able to get away with or that others haven’t been bothered by, least of all you.  yet, the fact remains that they are issues that bother your partner.  you will have to decide which is more important: continuing to live the way you do or making changes because it’s important to your partner.  if you both acknowledge your thus-far-unknown-to-you issues AND you acknowledge the need to change then you may be ready to love another human being for the long-haul (i.e. a serious relationship i.e. marriage).

you know, there's something there that wasn't there before

you know, there’s something there that wasn’t there before

you make me want to be a better man

you make me want to be a better man

STAGE 4: FACING IT ALL TOGETHER

even after marriage, life is not all happily ever after (sorry to rain on your enchanted parade).  life happens. change happens.  throughout all that, to be a serious relationship of true love, you commit yourselves to each other and strive to always become better together.  to get to this point i make the assumption that you agree what the “better” looks like (and in fact this point in particular is what research into long term couples has shown is indicative of longevity in a relationship).   to keep on loving through all the seasons of life for better or worse, for richer or poorer, though sickness and health…to be faithful…this is where you can experience real intimacy: a place where you are fully known and still loved.

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unfortunately this kind of love is incredible these days

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it’s not a perfect life but it’s a wonderful life

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Dirty Dancing, along with the classic Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles II, teaches us that you can solve many of life’s problems through the power of dance, and by asking daddy for some money to go do something you can’t tell him about just trust me.

-DK